Hello Earthmama: Thank you for bringing your concern here to PC. I see this is your first post here. So... welcome to Psych Central. One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the relationships & communication forum. Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/rela...communication/

I'm afraid what you are dealing with is something I'm not familiar with. So I can't be of any help with regard to it. Hopefully there will be other PC members who will have some insights & / or suggestions they can offer. In the meantime, however, here's a link to the "Sex and Intimacy in the Digital Age" blog here on PC. There are quite a few articles in this blog that deal with the issue of internet porn:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/rela...communication/

Personally, I don't know if there is any way of bringing this situation up with your husband without causing him embarrassment. However there are ways of helping to ensure you're communicating effectively. Here are links to 2 articles, again from PC's archives, that offer advice for communicating effectively in relationships:

Conscious Communication, 1 of 2: Eight Attributes of Conscious-Talking

Conscious Communication, 2 of 2: Five Attributes of Conscious-Listening

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.