I may be in the minority with this but I just dont feel anyone should get married only because their partner wants to. I am not saying you have to marry at all-if you both agree you love each other and do not need to thats fine. But it just doesnt feel right to get married if only one person wants to. Lets say it goes south, you could end up resenting the fact that you got married. If you are on disability- would a spouses' income count against you? It just feels dishonest. I am not saying you are dishonest OP it just doesnt seem right to me. Does she know you are only marrying her because she wants it? I think its only fair that she realize you are doing that for her and not because you want to.