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Originally Posted by precaryous
Doesn’t it depend on our goal(s) in therapy?
Connection and warmth are important to me in my current therapy.
But if I went to therapy with a goal of, perhaps, help with performance anxiety at school or work, connection and warmth might not be as important.
Hope, if connection and warmth are important to you in therapy, I feel your current T is telling you he is not the right fit for you unless you can use his expertise for some other purpose.
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Agreed
This time around, I just need someone who isn't judgemental to listen to my grief stuff, since I don't feel comfortable talking about it with most people. Having no connection is nice, we don't even joke around, it has helped so much in me not caring. I focus on the session and the work more and not the relationship. I trust him enough that he wont say anything to people and we "connect" on a basic human level and thats good enough for me
BUT
With my previous therapist, in that time in my life, the relationship saved me. I would not say that it mattered TO HIM if there was a connection or warmth though, it was more something I needed.