Zoiecat you pretty much described my experience with Emdr because of the disassociating. The last time we really tried it I really disassociated badly. After the appointment things spiraled out of control. It has been about a year. We needed to do more grounding work, then the loss of T changed the dynamics of my therapy with Emdr. We had to build more if a foundation so she could be my regular T and deal with the horrible grief I was/am dealing with. We both m have been apprehensive about returning to Emdr. Next appointment we are going to attempt to return but only taking tiny slivers of the past ti qorh through and not doing the reprocessing part. We will do this the first half of the appointment then found grounding and discuss other current less painful topics. Very nervous but willing try