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Originally Posted by feileacan
The feeling of safe has come from within, from the experience of being together with him. Also, I suppose there has been some reassurance (funny, but I feel that I don't really understand what that means), but mostly the safe has come from how I experience and perceive him in session. It has taken time though. I suppose that means it comes from consistency because he has been extremely consistent.
May I ask, do you actually have any evidence that she does not accept your negative feelings or you just assume that?
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This is an old T that I’m talking about, I’m no longer seeing her, but I’m still trying to understand what went wrong and lay it to rest. I felt that she didn’t accept my negative feelings because when I tried to talk about it (shame at something she did), she cut me off.
From your description I just think that your T is perhaps better at it than this t was. Your T has helped you to feel safe, but that didn’t happen for me with this T, it happened for me with the next T (who died), and has happened with my current T.
I too ponder about the meaning of reassurance, and what it is my T does that reassured me.