Her reacting a certain way to try to get you to act a certain way is definitely manipulative. Her actions are independent of yours-they are hers to own.
It sounds to me like she was engaging in power dynamics, perhaps triggered by her own abandonment issues. Either way, I think she acted out.
I would feel betrayed, maybe deceived, which is a trigger for me, so I would not trust the T. I doubt if I could work with someone who had this kind of behavior. Take care.