I guess I realize that therapists manipulate all the time. But I don't see manipulation as inherently a negative technique, probably because I am a teacher. We manipulate all the time. I'm a parent. I manipulate all the time (so do my kids, LOL).

You were trying to get a rise out of her, and you did. No, you didn't like how it felt to basically be called on it, but sometimes that is what is needed to cut to the chase.

I don't think it had anything to do with some deeply seeded countertransference dynamic going on. It sounds like she simply was calling you on what you were saying to get you back to a bit of reality.

Talk to her about your reaction. It's worth the discussion.