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Originally Posted by darkside8
I’m interested however, in relation to the blank slate therapist, what a therapist who really wants to show/build warmth and connection would look like? What do they do, or not do, during the therapy process that makes it clear that they value warmth and connection?
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I think that it is not only what the therapist does to show and build warmth, which IME with my current T, he doesn't generate an instant "warm and fuzzy" perception, nor is he cold and aloof, but what I do. I think his "blank slate" has nothing to do with self disclosure, which he does a ton of, but how his slate allows me to feel warmth and connection when I'm able to tap into it within myself. If I'm in a place where I'm not open to feeling it, then it doesn't happen. If I am open and willing to feel it, it happens. I don't think he "does" anything at all, he is just is. It's me who opens or shuts the door.