Responses to another poster’s thread got me thinking about a question, and I didn’t want to hijack so thought to start a separate place for this question.

What do you believe are appropriate expressions of feelings and emotions in therapy? What are your therapist’s boundaries? I am particularly interested in the negatives.

How does or would your therapist respond to expressing anger towards them?

Have or could you tell your therapist you hate them?

Is raising your voice in session acceptable?

Do they allow angry phone calls between sessions? Angry emails?

Have you ever accused your therapist of hurting you? Or not caring? Or not being competent? Could you?

Since ending therapy on a sour note, I have fantasies of all the angry things I wish I could go back and say to my therapist and the way I’d like to say them. Basically going nuclear. My EMDR therapist who was helping me through therapy trauma post-termination said the ‘corrective experience’ my therapist should have given me was permission to be angry at her, let it out, and have everything still be okay. Perhaps things wouldn't have boiled over as they did.

Thoughts?