((Fuzzy)), you are talking about your parents here?

Please understand that some people are just HORRIBLE parents and they do say mean things to their children too. There are parents who insist a child be there to please THEM and if a child somehow fails to fill that need then it's the child's fault. NOTHING could be further from the truth. From what you have shared you had parents who literally were completely clueless about how to nurture and provide a child with the right environment they could feel safe and loved in.