I questioned the woman's competency all the time. I question the competency of that entire job force. I don't think clients can abuse therapists (other than perhaps trying to physically assault them). I think they are set up as an act - they are other when acting as a therapist. I don't think clients can be mean to therapists or hurt them- they set the game up so that they are other - they are not real. I believe if a therapist tells a client the client hurt them - the therapist is acting or lying or needs to go get their own therapist.
I don't see it as whether the therapist allows or does not allow something - I would not hire one who thought in allowing or not allowing anything. But I also would not hire one who thought they were in a position to tell me how and what I could express anything.