This is all really interesting and helpful!

My anger towards my therapist came out in really passive-aggressive ways. Silence, refusing to share things and the like. Aside from the final explosion, our conflicts were back and forths in sarcastic and condescending tones. Childish, I guess.

My anger points were almost always about things that happened in therapy vs character attacks. Many incidents I was upset about would fit on internet 'red flag' signs of a bad therapist lists. Low likelihood of being transference based, which I think went over much worse than if it was “old stuff” resurfacing.

There’s a gap in what I hoped for vs how things played out in my own sessions around anger. I would have loved to have a therapist to just let it out with. I’m sure they exist. Unfortunately such characteristics aren’t disclosed a head of time so there’s no way to tell how anger is received until you’re ‘in it’.