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Fuzzybear · Apr 25, 2019 at 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by eskielover

Fuzzy

It is NEVER helpful.

For me if it happens I analyze what is said & if there is a shread of truth I persinally take it & analyze & see if a change in me is appropriate regarding the situation that caused the feelings.

If not I THROW AWAY anything they said (kinda like flipping them off). The analysis process helps me either way. If they do have valid points I can learn & grow.....OTHERWISE it strengthens my own self-validation ability & I become stronger as me. For me it has nothing to do with inner child.....it has everything to do with adult ME.

Thanks Eskie