LT - I think i am struggling with this also. I have a GP appointment monday, and i always feel so judged. Even tho he is super nice. But your last lines got me thinking - maybe the way for us to have now what we didnt have then, is to be the adult in our homes. Cuz i think like i told my dentist once - theres no grownup in my house making sure i brush my teeth before i go to bed. There NEVER was. Anyway, this week my daily goal was just to not be crazy any day (not overeat, not overspend? not otherwise hurt myself - not sure WHAT i meant!) And to make myself smell good, instead of smelling like a goat, as my mother used to tell me i did.