… with unconditional positive regard and love for them. Children are just children. There is nothing that any child could do or be that would make them less deserving than any other child on the planet. Really... if you can show me any child on this planet who you believe deserves anything less than safety, love, respect, warmth, kindness and compassion from every single adult she meets throughout her childhood, then I will give you a mirror to show you an adult who should not interact with children. There is absolutely nothing inherently wrong with any child, other than what others have done to them.

How do you help your inner child when they are feeling toxic shame?
With unconditional love-bombs.

For our inners we buy them toys, find little things out in the world that we think they will love, like feathers, pretty stones, we give them soft blankets to snuggle in, and we also give them running commentaries in our head, like we treat them as they should have been treated.