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Default Apr 26, 2019 at 01:47 AM
 
Hello, Couch. Hugs to all who need them. Seems like a rough week in Couch-land.

In my neck of the woods, I was faced with a near-grown-adult meltdown. My poor kiddo just plain got stuck and started crying in the kitchen over...??? He didn't even know. I got him patted together and convinced him to shower, eat something, and lie down on the couch so that he'd still have my company but he could get a rest. (Shower-snack-sleep is my go-to teen boy recipe for a reset.)

So I was standing there in the kitchen a little bewildered because it really was a bit out of the blue, mentally beating myself up because my grown kid clearly hasn't learned to cope and obviously that is my fault because I am his mother and didn't teach him, when my youngest (who'd been loading the dishwasher) said, "Whoa. That was some mad parenting skillzzz, Mom." And I said, "Really?" and he said, "Yeah. That was good."

Then I realized that I've raised some pretty good humans, and that I just showed my nearly grown young person that falling apart is an okay place to be, and that helping work it out when they fall apart IS the parenting and teaching part. Trying to stay in that space. Why is it so so so easy to second-guess myself?

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