I was feeling depressed yesterday and when I am depressed, I blame everything on myself. I have gotten better at figuring out when my son is unfairly blaming us and playing me. I am available to speak to him once a day (either I call him or vice versa). When he calls multiple times a day, I do not answer anymore--of course he can leave a message and if it is something that truly has to be dealt with immediately--I will drop everything and go. My therapist has said we are too enmeshed. I cannot speak for my son (kids do not tell their parents everything nor should they) but, yes, I am too enmeshed. I am immature (not being over critical of myself--just an observation that fits).

Thanks for alll your wise encouragement Healing!