Thanks everybody for their advice, you’ve all given me good ideas to think of a way to approach this conversation rhe next time it happens.
However my situation has just changed again, and I just found out I wasn’t completely informed of my situation, and I just found out that I still have cancer and they don’t know if they can remove it, and they don’t think I’ll survive. I’ve been told there is a CHANCE I could, but it’s pretty grim. So I may not live long enough to even worry about this conversation too much, and my reasons for not having kids has now changed yet again. I guess I could just tell people I probably won’t live long enough to even consider adopting.