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Bowie’sLady
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Default Aug 09, 2019 at 12:11 AM
 
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Originally Posted by BirdDancer View Post
I am still on disability and really wish there was somewhere to go during the work week (daytime hours) where I could meet new people to make new friends. Yes, I know there is volunteering, but I'm not quite in a work type mode yet. I've tried it and failed a number of times. I know there are daytime classes, but I take a one hour class once per week already, and it's expensive. Everything else seems to cost a lot of money. Many things "out" maybe expose me to people, but not in a socializing sense.

Getting back into socializing more will help prepare me to succeed at future volunteering and eventually a job. But I need to take baby steps.

Pretty much every social gathering (support groups, meetups, book clubs) are in the evenings and/or on the weekends. That's not when I need the extra social interactions. Plus, evenings are hard for me.

I have seen a couple meetups during the daytime hours weekdays, but they seem to be stay at home moms or retirees. I'm neither. I not even a mother and will not be.

Is there anything out there to do? I almost wonder if I should try to start a special daytime workday meetup, but that seems like an overwhelming thing for me to do right now. If I did, the most I'd want to spend is the cost of a coffee at a cafe or maybe a movie or occasional lunch a couple times per month. I am open about the people I'd meet. They need not have a mental illness, but I would want a variety enough to not feel like an odd-woman out (i.e. the only woman not a stay at home mom or retiree).

Unfortunately, I only really feel confident driving 20 miles or less, each way (preferably not all on major highways), from my home. That's another barrier I have to deal with.
I know exactly how you feel @BirdDancer As I’m on Disability now & always will be unfortunately. I’ve not only got mental health issues but also multiple painful physical ones too.

I can’t even do volunteering as I’m just not well enough to. I also live in a rural coastal area which is very isolated and hours away from the city. Our children are all grown up & have left home along with many friends that have also moved a long way away.

There aren’t many social events to go to. Those that they do have I don’t feel comfortable going to. Mainly because of socioeconomic reasons. In other words I feel looked down upon because I don’t work. Along with all my “invisible disabilities” that nobody can see nor understand.

If it wasn’t for my husband I would have given up years ago. Problem is after years of traumatic health events with me have taken their toll on him now. He’s also been diagnosed with Bipolar, Major Depression & Anxiety Disorder.

Sometimes it’s so tough that we both feel like giving up literally....know what I mean?

I wish you luck with Meet UPS etc I really do. I’ve thought of starting one myself out here? But don’t think I have reliable enough physical health to carry through with it. If not for my physical health problems I could do it. I feel so frustrated as once I had a successful career and lots of confidence.

However after so much sickness over the years, life has gradually chipped it all away. Sorry to sound so down but I truly am.

I wish you all the best with your socialising!

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