Kinda like y'all are swimming in the pool and he's peeing in the 'peeing section' and doesn't understand that it is affecting you while you're swimming in the 'no peeing section'. He doesn't believe that he can't have both you and smoking, and continues to look for ever more elaborate ways to facilitate both - while getting increasingly frustrated as each successive method fails.

I get it. You have a number of double binds here. It's starting to look like the proverbial Gordian Knot.