Sure no problem. Is the same thing really happening to you? With a gate too? Wow!

The narcissist in my family is really illogical. I sort of wonder if it's ADHD. They are always angry about banging into things or stepping on things, but can't learn to walk more carefully or pick up stuff so they don't hurt their feet. Once they bought a shelf, placed it themselves, and then crashed into it and swore every single day for months. I never bumped into the shelf once so it's odd that she can't learn to avoid a piece of furniture when when she put it there herself. Is the person you are dealing with like that too?