Hello stardusterr: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central.

Here's a link to an article by our host Dr. John Grohol, Psy.D., from Psych Central's archives, on the subject of coping with grief & loss. The article provides links to a number of additional articles on the subject:

Coping with Grief | Psych Central

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.