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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
It really depends on how much you decide you want to take. Often the pain has to become greater than letting things stay as they are. Only then will you change the way you relate to her. We teach people how to treat us. They may start out in life as cruel selfish people but if we allow the treatment to continue without consequences then why would they change? You will have to put a lock on your door. It doesnt matter if it offends her. It offends you and your dog to have her violate your space. If you decide to go a step further and there is physical abuse then maybe get the police involved- if you want it to stop. You may consider moving into a place where you have your own space. You are under no obligation to keep living with her for any reason, loyalty or responsibility.
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Thanks for the suggestion. I will try the lock. But as I said, I don't have the ability to live elsewhere right now. It has been my dream to live without her, but I literally don't have the money. I don't want to reveal more personal details but there is a reason I have to stay in this house and I can't force her to leave. I would get out of I could. I have been trying for years. Why doesn't anyone believe me when I say I don't have the means to have my own place. And I can't abandon my responsibilities to go live in a shelter or choose to be homeless with a sick dog.