She is going to see her other lover again this weekend so any help would be appreciated. i have a session lined up with my art therapist tomorrow and have some activities planned including walking tomorrow and going to the cinema in the evening, then Sunday I will probably spend painting as it allows me to rechannel feelings of self-harm into something creative and engage directly with my feelings. We sent the last 2 days and nights together and made love more tenderly and beautifully than ever several times - it really allowed us to rebond and for me to feel our love and connection physically - i think my anxiety is on a very embodied level so just being told "I love you" or me trying to use cognitive techniques doesnt entirely work, I need to rewire stuff that is hard-wired into my nervous system and responses going back to early childhood.