I'm so sorry Silverblue. It's a shame your T isn't validating your very real feelings. It's obviously super hard looking after a special needs kid, and perhaps your T was coming from the perspective of the parents that it must have been awful for them etc, but your feelings are valid too and need to be heard and understood for what you suffered in the process. I can relate on some level - my sibling wasn't special needs but she was emotionally disturbed and was the one who 'acted out' so all the attention went on her. I was expected to be the good child as I was more sensitive and intelligent and as a result I was severely neglected. There was more going on in my house but that was part of it. My sibling suffered horribly, but so did I. I would agree with others that if your T can't see things from your perspective and empathise it's time to seek another T.