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Default Sep 27, 2019 at 07:47 PM
 
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Originally Posted by bellle View Post
Thank you so much for your welcome and your links...I will certainly check them out - very helpful
I don't think a background check is much help to be honest. I think this is a "Wait & see what happens time"
and be there to pick up the pieces - or hopefully it turns out that we are wrong!
Bellle
If the daughter hears you are spying on her new beau it could be a wedge between you so I think you are smart not to go that route. The problem is people in life and love have to chart their own course. All we can do is keep a light in the window for when they find themselves off course and seeking direction.

If you could do anything it might be to get them or daughter to agree to postpone marriage plans till all the skeletons come out of the closet. Or suggest a prenuptial if it is in your daughter's favor to protect her assets from someone that may think of those as their own.

Keeping finances separate is a good way to be cautious. If they do not like that maybe that is a yellow flag.

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