Hi Ravengurl, welcome to PC.

1. As I was reading what you wrote about that guy, here's what I thought: "this guy had a crush on her, she turned him down, and he humiliated, and tried to save face by saying 'just kidding, I was just messing around.'" Girl, the dude liked you and couldn't take that you didn't like him back, so he behaved rather childishly in his response. Not graceful of him at all. It is a rather "high school" thing to do. But I hope you know you did nothing wrong.

I personally used to obsess about weird things that have happened, hurtful things ppl have said to me, and omg, things I've said in the past I wish I could say differently now. All the cringe worthy stuff. I think it comes along with being sensitive, anxious, and prone to depression.

I of course can't know for sure why you think what you think. But I could relate so maybe your brain is like mine.

I'm at a point in my life where I'm learning to put that stuff in its place. At least, I try, haha. Therapy helps and so does DBT.

Have a good day