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adidasqueen2023
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Member Since: Oct 2019
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Default Oct 09, 2019 at 09:35 PM
 
I know I have extremely volatile moods, and unstable relationships with most people in my life who have not known me too long. the relationships I have been able to keep are intimate boyfriends who probably make excuses for my behavior/mood swings because they are attracted to me and/or don't want to lose the relationship; old friends since high school, although I know all of them have personally evaluated our friendship and the three of them do not have many other friends themselves.

My friends in college disassociated themselves from me after I would do wild and impulsive things when drunk, and after they had to "take care" of me too many times. I spoke out about eating issues but have never really tried to resolve them because fasting is the only thing that truly makes me feel better. This happened last semester and nobody talked to me all summer: I hid everyone's snap stories so that I wouldn't see them all hanging out together because it physically hurt every single time I saw their faces.

I rarely rage out at other people unless blackout drunk, and then I really don't know what I say or do unless other people tell me. I've called my boyfriend drunk and screaming about how he didn't care about me or that all my friends thought I should break up with him. I told my friend once when she was helping me after I got sick from drinking that I ****ing hated her and she needed to leave me alone.

This year I have controlled myself excellently in social situations for the most part, except one time when I was really busy at work with a coworker (I'm a server). My old friends have occasionally said hi but I do not speak to them or say anything back except a hello. I don't know what they expect from me, I can't just act like nothing happened and I can't reach out to any of them. Our school is very small so I know our other acquaintances have definitely noticed I'm no longer around and probably asked why. I haven't drank since august 9th, and don't plan on drinking again in my life. I have lost too many people to substance abuse.

I just feel empty, but it's different than it used to be. As a child I had temper tantrums but nothing extraordinary. When I got older and was subjected to deep emotional abuse by my stepfather, I just changed. I feel like there is something deeply and inherently unlovable or unlikeable about me. I am honestly so scared of every single person I interact with because I don't think anyone really likes me or would if they knew how I really spend my time or what I really think about.

Anyway, I'm just looking for some help or advice. I don't want to keep hurting people so I really have isolated myself from everyone except my boyfriend, sister, and two friends from back home. But I am in so much emotional pain I can physically feel it in my chest and throat. My heart literally skips a beat when I see my old friends unexpectedly on campus because I'm so torn. I miss them all terribly sometimes and then five minutes later I hate them for literally abandoning me. I know I did things that weren't okay, but so did they, and I was always scared they would leave me and this is just proof to me maybe I was right all along.
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