I have always felt that people who have addictions are the saddest people there are. The drink takes away the pain and then the problems that make a person lose it amplifies out of control. Wish there was more acceptance for people, who suffer from low self esteem,codependency etc.. . The more we judge the worse it gets. Try and see the love only is all i can think..and realize it is there "demons" they have to deal with. Giving a loving hand usually helps and if that doesn't work the best you can do is release them until they see. ( Hugs)