Concerning my family's problems--my dad turns 80 this year and my mother-in-law has been in her 80s for a while. In our opinion, they just can't handle the stress of some of the things that have gone on with one of our children so we don't tell them anymore. When they ask, we tell them a limited amount. They love all their grandkids and worry about them. My dad and mother-in-law have done so much for their families that they deserve a break. Is your daughter in contact with your mother? If she isn't, I would shield her from as much of the drama as you can.

Also--do you have siblings? At this point in my life, I confide what is going on with my siblings rather than my dad. They have tried to help but we can't help our kids unless they start making better decisions. My siblings have encouraged me and helped me see that it was not my fault or responsibility but I understand how a baby brings a different dynamic. Babies are innocent and need protection. A very hard situation.

I am sorry.