In my reading, and in my experience, enmeshed men actually don’t have a girlfriend or wife for sex. The reason is that one of the emotional results of the enmeshment is that the man feels suffocated or engulfed when in a romantic relationship and develop an avoidant attachment style. At first when the love is new they are fine with Sex,but when the relationship starts feeling too close and committed and they start feeling suffocated they get anxious and pull away. This is because of the relationship with mom feeling like they are responsible for her happiness and emotions etc and while they feel they “ have “ to do this and are responsible for it they also realize they are so close they can’t think of themselves so feel engulfed. Since they can’t break away from mom emotionally they can’t handle another woman needing so much from them too so they tend to not get close, truly bond or attach and withdrawing from sexual intimacy is one way to make sure they don’t get or feel too close.