Given what you have shared blanch, I can understand how this situation really bothers you. It's hard sometimes to get a real picture of what someone is actually trying to share without seeing it one's self. I have tried to share what I have experienced in dealing with my older sister and I honestly don't think others understand just how toxic she can really be. She can get so incredibly toxic that it's been embarrassing that she is my sister. People tend to actually hide when she is around to avoid her and that includes nurses and professionals in the health care field. Even a lawyer she hired had to appologize to my lawyer for something that was sent to my lawyer that my sister wrote. My lawyer, after meeting her looked at me and said OMG what a mean witch your sister is, WOW. Truth is, her behavior has been so toxic it has traumatized me.