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Originally Posted by winter4me
I do know what you mean, and it is hardest, I think, when we Know that it isn't really fair or helpful to make those comparisons (in a way that makes us feel bereft) the emotions run deep. pain/blame/shame/…
But I know there are days I feel lucky to have what I do have. Just can't get there on the bad days...
if this makes any sense
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Absolutely. When I compare myself I often get angry and bitter and this turns towards the person. Not really helpful at all. Of course I don't show this to the person.
I should try to focus on what I actually DO have instead. But I can't help it when I see/hear it. It really hurts. Mostly it's because I don't have a close relationship to anyone I can confide in. So when I hear others have it, it really hits home with me and I feel infinitely alone.