It makes a lot of sense to me! Finding the boundaries can be a painful, trial-and-error process. Dismissive people can really hurt, too. In my own situations with this, I have tried to erase my allegorical fingerprints from activities and groups in which I bumbled my way and failed to make friends. I leave and try again with the feedback of what not to do, but with a different group and maybe a new nickname. I'm glad to hear that you take breaks and use your intuition, instead of rejecting yourself out of the group before knowing if they really would.