Thanks for the later replies.

Yes, I agree, it could be cultural. Being tactful here, domestic violence is often part of the problem. She seems to lack the ability to confront her issues, no longer attending support groups. Don't know the reason so shouldn't be judgemental as I know these situations aren't anything new.

What's frustrating me is she expects everyone to sort out her problems now she's divorced. Was happy when it first started, now it's almost daily, I'm calling a halt because of impact on what I need to achieve. Everything was fine at first, we had a laugh and as mentioned before, I've talked to her son about sport. She has other friends who advise her, so is not alone. I can still set boundaries without severing all contact. Now her paper recycling bin is spilling contents over shared driveway; she's just driven off and left it for someone else to clear up