Dear Deilla,

I'm so sorry that happened to you and I think your feelings are totally understandable.

I often wish I had a better relationship with my mother.

The only way I find peace is to realize that she is probably the way she is because of how she was brought up. That gives me some tranquility.

I sure hope you find things that will help you in the unhappy situation you are in!

Sincerely yours -- Yao Wen