Sorry, still victim blaming for me. My husband set our house on fire (with me in it, if that matters) which caused me some distress. Is that somehow still my fault? Maybe it is. That's still something I'm trying to work out. Should I still have to communicate with myself that my thinking about this event is creating my problems? Or is it just intrinsically that this event is troubling? I'd like to believe that one's husband trying to burn one's house down is by it's very nature troubling and not to have to second guess myself that this was traumatizing for me.