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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
Since it’s gotten to this point and she’s now an adult, it’s too late for the parenting that would have normally happened starting a long time ago. Your husband wasn’t united with you and she became unmanageable. There must have been a lot of issues between your marriage that contributed to her lack of discipline. But what’s done is behind you, so don’t beat yourself up. At this point, you are having to get through a pandemic with an adult daughter in your house being a toxic drain on you.
After life gets back to normal, you can get her to move out, change the locks, and don’t let her back in. I’m sorry and know how heartbreaking this must be for you. Prayers for maybe she will grow up and become a much better person someday soon. 21 is still quite young.
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Thank you!
Yes, it is heartbreaking as I have no relationship with her. I truly believe she doesn’t love me or her father. (I’m not saying that to sound pathetic. It’s a true belief). I agree with everything you have said and that is at this point I don’t see a way back unless she gets older and thinks god I only have one mom and dad and they did their best and comes back to us. But as it is it’s simply not manageable. Because I’m just writing posts, there’s a load more I haven’t even told you all. These include compulsive lying (and lying about something that is totally obvious she’s lying donut but she says it like it’s the absolute truth) and loads of other stuff that’s happened. If I had written it all down I’d have a book. But I do need her out which is likely not be until October/November. I’ll have to hang on and stay sane.
Thanks for taking the time to reply.