Sep 02, 2020 at 06:12 PM
I never forgave my bully sister for the misery she caused me. I went zero contact with her 25 years ago and it was the best thing I ever did. I do not have to forgive her or have her in my life just because she is my sister. I am not God and it is not my job to forgive her. That is his job.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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