If you have been saying several years it is well time that you decide what you're going to do for your future. Do you live together? Are you guysat an age where having children needs to be done sooner rather than later? No matter what his issue is about talking about the future That isn't important right now. For whatever reason, he is unable or unwilling to make a choice or decision. You do not have to wait for this. It seems like you have already given him several years to do something. I'm unclear as to why you're waiting to get a house. Why would you live with someone who has no future in mind?