Update: We talked and she was SO nice, and communicative and reassuring. I won't say everything, but I really just think...I wasted my thoughts and worries (though thank you for your kind and thoughtful replies you guys). Maybe I didn't waste them. But it turned out so well and all my thoughts and speculations were false. I know I really need to work on checking the facts. And refraining from assuming (and judging). I'm just so glad things worked out. I have a pretty amazing friend.