Hi, I am not looking for her to buy me things to make me happy. Material things are not the most important thing to me in a loving relationship. It would just be nice that sometimes she would say I miss being with you and for her to open up to me about her feelings about me and how she feels about our relationship. Expressing unconditional love for someone can be displayed in many ways. I have met her children and she has met mine. She has been divorce for over 10 years now. Yes I would love to marry her in 1-2 years from now. Not sure what you mean by " Financially things are separated and tied to previous decisions made before the relationship and her kids, right?. She has sole custody for her three children ( ages 22,28,37) and has no communication with her ex. due the abuse. Why to you advise against married at this stage or in the near future