What I meant is.... and I am assuming here... If you are both around age 65 give or take it is assumed that you both worked and put some money away? A retirement plan or 401K? Have you both had wills made so no exes get anything and it all goes to the kids? I see no point in getting married now because you have lived separate lives both physically and financially up until this point so it is not financially advantageous to get married and may even affect social security. We are not living in the old days and cohabitation happens all the time. i can understand wanting to show love and commitment by getting married but if its the real deal for the both of you then neither of you will expect the other to "prove" it with a ceremony, piece of paper. There is no way to "show or prove" love. its a feeling, demonstrated through physical contact and prioritizing the other's needs. But marriage IMO doesnt need to happen in order to show love. Unless there is a huge benefit that I am missing.