You hit the nail right on the head, Gray. The N seems to instinctively 'smell' the needs of others and use that to gain access to ones inner desires. Then they are able to effectively manipulate.

Something I have found useful was in another thread here... a discussion between 2 N's. They mentioned how thrilling it was to see the look of disappointment or heartbreak on the Victims face. No wonder the N's in my life have smiled at me when they caused me pain.

As always, I read and re-read Sam Valkin's FAQ's to remind myself to PAY ATTENTION to the subtile clues an N gives.

VoN
(Victim of Narcissists)