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Default May 28, 2018 at 10:45 AM
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It's hard to manage multiple addictions.

Before restricting my diet even further, ice cream and chips were my comfort/go-to foods. This was after I went completely gluten free, most outings meant I'd have to stock up on chips and stuff myself with ice cream. Now, I can't eat potatoes or dairy. Food is community, essentially, so when we have issues around food it can be difficult. Alcohol is a major social lubricant, which you did not partake in so big kudos to you. I don't think I'm at a phase in my sobriety where I can hang out at a bbq and be okay.

I think I could be okay at a BBQ or whatever, but I like to have a safety person. I came out about my substance abuse to the organizer of the Wednesday night paddle I attend pretty regularly because they often go to a bar and grill afterwards and I wold like to join them sometimes. He is good with being my safety person and will speak up if needed. Deja vu - I amy have mentioned this earlier...

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I think I could be okay at a BBQ or whatever, but I like to have a safety person. I came out about my substance abuse to the organizer of the Wednesday night paddle I attend pretty regularly because they often go to a bar and grill afterwards and I wold like to join them sometimes. He is good with being my safety person and will speak up if needed. Deja vu - I amy have mentioned this earlier...
It bears repeating. At least for me. It's something to consider in the long run.

How would you go about asking someone? Would the safety person remain sober also?

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I have another BBQ to go to this evening at 4pm. I have a 6-pack of stevia sweetened root beer, cooling in the fridge. We picked up some brocolli salad from whole foods yesterday to bring. It looked kind of wilted hope it is still ok today!
Just got back from breakfast at IHOP. Man it was good. I had a cheese omelet with salsa and hot sauce, and an order of swedish crepes with lingonberries. They are a tart little berry and delicious!
Raked up a small barrel of magnolia leaves from the front yoard.
We accidentally left on the sprinkler last night so the back yard looked flooded this morning. OPPS!

Now I need to take my meds. I did not take all of my supplements and vitamins last night...I just said screw it and took the prescription ones. I feel the same way today. Just rx meds. maybe I will just take all of those supplements during the week and not take them on the weekends.
I don't know if they help me or not. I have been taking them for years, just lately added a few more.
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Default May 28, 2018 at 06:46 PM
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It bears repeating. At least for me. It's something to consider in the long run.

How would you go about asking someone? Would the safety person remain sober also?
Safety person does drink if they want, but probably not to really being drunk.

The person I asked I have sort of gotten to know at the paddling sessions, so I was pretty sure he would be a good choice to ask. Here is the opening FB message I sent him:
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I may make it over to [barr & grill name] after some future paddles, but I have to ask a big favor. In 2 days, I will be 11 months sober. When I go somewhere for food and drinks, I prefer that someone there know that I shouldn't drink. It keeps it from being a temptation if I know someone will bust my chops.

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This is a good note, however:

Just remember it is not his responsibility to not let you drink, it is yours.

You have ownership.

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Default May 29, 2018 at 06:37 AM
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This is a good note, however:

Just remember it is not his responsibility to not let you drink, it is yours.

You have ownership.

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I know that, but sometimes ownership means staying away from temptation and I would hate to miss out on the socializing because of the temptation so I decided to try getting a safety person so it won't be tempting. I won't make him speak up; just knowing he would will be enough.

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I know that, but sometimes ownership means staying away from temptation and I would hate to miss out on the socializing because of the temptation so I decided to try getting a safety person so it won't be tempting. I won't make him speak up; just knowing he would will be enough.
Have you used a safety person before?

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I know that, but sometimes ownership means staying away from temptation and I would hate to miss out on the socializing because of the temptation so I decided to try getting a safety person so it won't be tempting. I won't make him speak up; just knowing he would will be enough.

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