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For the past few years I've like really given up due to some terrible life events. About 3yrs ago I lost everything that had any meaning to me and everything I worked really hard for. I started using heroin and mdma to cope with my day. Definitely not the greatest idea, but It was the only thing I could turn too.
I recently got completely clean, and intend on staying that way. My upbring was very very horrible and that's saying it nice. It definitely contributes to this addiction. Upon getting clean and being this way for almost 5 months now, I feel I have absolutely no one at all and feel incredibly alone and depressed. I went to my mom's the other day and all she did for 3hrs was just beat me down and judge me for absolutely everything. Saying all I do is whine and complain along with make excuses. I moved to a small town that evidently has zero social events or community support. I gave up driving and can't get anywhere around me that does. Which I've explained to my family, but to them it's an excuse. That I'm isolating myself and not doing anything to get well. I've been 100% sober since April, no heroin/mdma use, no alcohol and even quit smoking weed. I attend all my appointments that I have too and have even sought out extra therapy till I can get into a rehab center. I've been eating a lot healthier like a lot has changed. Yet nothing I seem to do for anyone is good enough Over the time since April I found out I had really bad tooth infections. Evidently from my drug use and have had easily 10 teeth surgically removed with zero narcotics. So obviously in a ton of pain. Over this time I agreed to help a good friend of my mine with a car problem and saved him 1500 dollars on labour and did the work for free for him. During this time he has done nothing but ride my *** to finish this, and when I did I didn't even get a thank you like nothing. And when I use the car I instantly get a message saying you better put gas in if your going to use my car. That aside he told me a month ago all I was doing was making excuses to not finish it. When I've been tremendously sick and in a ton of pain. Not to mention it wasn't until 3 weeks ago I started to be able to function with the help of suboxone. I spent essentially all last night crying and thinking of everything. It really hit me hard when I realized I don't overly have any support at all. The things I do for people, they just take 110% advantage of me. If I say anything they just make me feel like an asshole for standing up for myself. I honestly feel like nobody cares about me at all, friends or family. If I didn't have legal trouble right now I'd quite literally pack what I need and just leave without saying anything. I feel incredibly alone and worthless and it's beyond made me depressed to absolute ****. The past 3 years have been incredibly scary. I've attempted suicide 7 times and I don't even know how many times I've overdosed. I'm at my end here and honestly don't know what to do besides cry and just beat myself to **** because that's all I feel like I'm worth. Last edited by bluekoi; Aug 23, 2019 at 09:47 PM.. Reason: Add triggger icon. |
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I am sorry you are struggling, do you have a therapist? I would get one if you don't. They can help you learn coping skills to deal with stress and your past.
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Is there any chance you can start over in a new place? Congrats on your sobriety I have been sober for 7 years myself.
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Crumbling puppet...I'm so sorry you have lost yourself....the people around you probably just don't know what to do to help you because you sound horribly depressed...And on top of that...when we use drugs or alcohol..people don't trust us...for a very, very long time after they know that we are going to be ok.
I am a believer it is not your fault that you have the "genes" that steer you toward alcohol or drugs...Start being kind to yourself....I'm 55...and in the same situation as you...lost..no friends...family has turned against me...I left a job 5 years ago....so I don't work...all I do is take care of my Dad with dementia....BUT...since I have gotten older I have been OK with learning to like the person that I AM....and since no one is "around" I am learning more and more I like about myself...because no one is around to put down my every thought or action. I do not have legal troubles that keep me here...I have my Father....but I like you would like to pack up and leave this area of bad memories also. It is not you ....it is the life you are struggling to get away from....Change your attitude about "YOU"....look in the mirror and tell yourself how f-ing strong you are that you are getting thru all of this SOBER....And continue to tell yourself good things throughout the day....you have a good smile....you are kind....(You fixed your friends car...that is kind)...you can't force other people to be the things you are.....You are also compassionate....You have so much going for you that these people don't recognize...but as soon as you recognize this stuff in yourself...it will stand out trust me. Lately, since I have started this self talk...I hold my head a little higher....I have become MORE comfortable with being alone...not 100% comfortable...but it is not as scary as it was before...I'm starting to like myself and what happens when you start to like yourself is that you give off a different "vibe" and because you respect yourself people start to RESPECT YOU. This is a tough journey we are on in life...but we also know that if we keep using or drinking there won't be a life....My sister died of an overdose 1 year ago this Friday.....she never learned to like herself..... __________________ "I'm not crazy, I'm just a little unwell" (My girlfriend had this ringtone for my phone calls...lol) Bipolar 1 Anxiety Current Medications: Lorazepam Zoloft Abilify Gabapentin |
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