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Default Jan 11, 2020 at 02:41 PM
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my GF is addicted to weed
she want to get off . and i want to help her out but we really dont know were to start and we need guidance.

what do we need to do?
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Default Jan 11, 2020 at 09:53 PM
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Well, there are different schools of thought on this. Does she think she is dependent on it? Has to to use it every day? In my opinion, having been in treatment and in the hospital with a number of people who were addicted to weed, it is absolutely an addictive substance for some.

I had a massive addiction issue and what got me sober finally was AA and NA. Meetings, getting someone to help me with the steps and with support--a sponsor--, and trying really hard not to use in between the meetings. I didn't get it at first. It took awhile. But after a bit, it all made sense and I have been on autopilot since.

Sending you support. She can do this. But she is going to need some outside help, in my opinion.

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Default Jan 12, 2020 at 11:03 AM
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Well, there are different schools of thought on this. Does she think she is dependent on it? Has to to use it every day? In my opinion, having been in treatment and in the hospital with a number of people who were addicted to weed, it is absolutely an addictive substance for some.

I had a massive addiction issue and what got me sober finally was AA and NA. Meetings, getting someone to help me with the steps and with support--a sponsor--, and trying really hard not to use in between the meetings. I didn't get it at first. It took awhile. But after a bit, it all made sense and I have been on autopilot since.

Sending you support. She can do this. But she is going to need some outside help, in my opinion.
thanks for the help!
i will bring up the support group thing.
she currently seeing a therapist but i dont know if it will be enough.

IF ANYONE GOT ANYMORE SEGGUESTION PLEASE LET ME KNOW!

she said she tried to take a breake from it once and she started to get moodie to sweat a lot and even passout.

i cant know for sure if it was directly but i dont want to rule it out.

any way i will bring up the whole NA meeting.

IF ANYONE GOR MORE SEGGUESTIONS PLEAS TELL ME ABOUT IT

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Default Jan 13, 2020 at 04:31 PM
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There is also a Marijuana Anonymous meeting. Not sure about where you are in Israel, but if you are near Tel Aviv or Jerusalem or Haifa, there might be one.

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Default Jan 13, 2020 at 04:49 PM
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I've now been sober from weed for around 300 days.

What helped me quit was that I realized the negative impact it was having on me.

I think though that professional help could be beneficial. It was in my case.

Honestly, weed impacted my mental health in ways I never realized until later.

Psychologically, it is a bad substance for me.

Also, there are support groups all over the place. There are even ones online.

I hope this helps in some way.
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Default Jan 13, 2020 at 09:41 PM
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I am only clean 13 days, so I'm no expert, but it is my 3rd time cleaning myself up. Hopefully the last.
The number one thing for myself was a strong desire to quit.

Does she have a reason to quit? That can be very beneficial. At least it was in my case.
Be patient, and don't blame her or make her wrong. She is probably already feeling like a failure for her perceived lack of control or ability to quit.

If you want to help and have the finances, offer some fantastic reward that may motivate her. Do I hear vacation to some tropical paradise? Just kidding. Has she ever wanted you to do something with her that you just haven't wanted to do? Dancing? Really nice dinner out? Offer to do something for her that is all about her. Pay for a massage, manicure, pedicure. Haircut at a very expensive salon.

These are just ideas. You know what would be enticing to her. They don't have to be expensive. You could offer up 5 one hour foot massages divvied up one per week as long as she stays clean.

I give you kudos for wanting to support/help your gf. I would have loved to have that support.
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Default Jan 30, 2020 at 10:38 AM
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For me, just not having it around helps. If it's there, I'll smoke. That's an insultingly simple solution, but I tend not to be very social. I just make sure I'm not around it.

That stated, bpcyclist also mentioned AA. It's not for everyone, but it sure helps me with my alcoholism. I was a very heavy (blackout) drinker. There's no way I could have quit without AA - I sure tried!
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Default Feb 05, 2020 at 11:55 PM
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I don't spend much time around my old smoking friends. I found it happened naturally by not hanging out. Not even on purpose, just due to everyone being too busy to get together
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Default Feb 06, 2020 at 11:19 AM
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The 1st thing I did was to stop buying it. It was getting to be pretty expensive where I live and I needed the money for my kid's needs.
Also I started reading more after I quit. I didn't lose my train of thought as much and was able to read more books. I guess the joy of learning sort of replaced the joy of getting stone, for me anyhow.
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Default Feb 06, 2020 at 12:49 PM
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I've now been sober from weed for around 300 days.

What helped me quit was that I realized the negative impact it was having on me.

I think though that professional help could be beneficial. It was in my case.

Honestly, weed impacted my mental health in ways I never realized until later.

Psychologically, it is a bad substance for me.

Also, there are support groups all over the place. There are even ones online.

I hope this helps in some way.
Hey sorry for the delay do u think u can guide to any online support group?
is there any on this website?
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Default Feb 24, 2020 at 03:29 AM
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Having a professional support is I think the best approach on this and of course your support.

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Default Mar 04, 2020 at 09:41 AM
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Cold turkey and eating stuff good for you. Occupying your time with hobbies.
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Default Mar 04, 2020 at 12:05 PM
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@Starkfull I am sorry I didn't see this until now.

If you need to, send me a private message and I'll tell you the name of a support group online that I've been using.
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