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Default Mar 01, 2020 at 09:40 PM
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I'm not in therapy. I have been but we really didn't have much to talk about besides growing up with an alcoholic dad. "Much!" Yeah... Just that. That session was when I broke down sobbing to my T. Now that I'm not seeing her, I brought up working on being an adult child of an alcoholic- suggested going to AA meatings. Supposedly there are ACA meetings too but not as many. I feel weird about talking with other alcoholics about how my alcoholic dad treated us. Just doesn't click in my mind, you know? Would I want to hear what they had to say? Would it seem like excuses for my dad's behavior?

Anyway, I don't have a T to talk with about this. It seems like they - pdoc mainly- think AA is a better place to talk about things than a therapist.

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Default Mar 01, 2020 at 11:22 PM
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I don't know, seems like ACA would be the better fit. It really depends on the individual groups cause they vary so much. When I was with my ex I went to ACA AA and NA to get help dealing with his alcohol and drug use. I preferred Open NA meetings cause they were the coolest people. I found ACA to be to blaming and bitter. If you go to therapy what's your goal beyond talking?

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Default Mar 03, 2020 at 06:02 PM
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I'd love to just listen to what others have to say about being an ACA. But not if they're going to be blaming and bitter!

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Default Mar 05, 2020 at 11:59 AM
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so ur saying that the AA would blame and be bitter so ur saying that a NA would be a bettter bet than a AA wound be
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Default Mar 07, 2020 at 07:40 PM
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Hi Moose, there is also Alanon meetings you can attend too that are for families of those who have alcohol addition problems.

What they have been discovering about alcoholism is that "some" individuals begin using alcohol to escape the symptoms they are experiencing from trauma. Often once an individual gets sober it's not unusual they discover they have ptsd and have to not only learn how to stay sober but also begin working through their ptsd issues.

The other thing that can happen is how some individuals become binge alcoholics because they are bipolar and often drink when manic.

So, often the alcohol is a form of self medicating with a person that slowly becomes an addiction/lifestyle. I also discovered as my husband is a recovering binge alcoholic who's now been sober for 28 years, that many of the individuals in the AA rooms struggle with ADHD.

They are also learning that certain people are more prone to becoming alcoholics if they drink alcohol and that it's hereditary. Some alcoholics get very mean when they drink and some are happy drunks. And yet others black out and continue to drink yet they don't even remember what they did while they drank and can even wake up in another state dazed and confused. My husband experienced blackouts would come home and not even remember when he came home or what he did when he got home. This can be scary to live with.

I had a friend that died of alcoholism despite our efforts to take her to meetings and be there for her. I would sit in her car and talk and talk to her, she wanted to stop but just could not quit. She was only maybe early 50's when she died.

My father was a binge alcoholic. I did not even know what that was and I married a binge alcoholic so I have dealt with that disease my entire life in someone I love. Ofcourse, there is a lot more awareness now than when I was young and dated and married my husband. My dad denied he had a problem because he could go for a while without drinking. I don't think HE knew about binge alcoholism either. However, I also think my father had some ptsd issues from what he experienced while serving in WWII. Men tended to hide their problems in that generation. There was not much openly discussed about trauma and ptsd in that generation like the awareness and growing openness about these challenges now.

Some may benefit by going to AA meetings, perhaps even going to a speaker meeting where someone gets up and tells their story. I think it all depends on the individuals that meet in certain groups and tend to frequent the same meetings.

It's hard on the person/family members/spouses because they end up living their lives around that disease often like me, their entire lives and it does create challenges and you just never seem to have that entire person you would like to love really there.

Perhaps do a search and find out if there are any alanon meetings near where you live. It's nice to have someone who can relate to what life is like for those who have someone in their life that has alcohol/addiction issues.
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I'm getting ready to choose AA in addition to therapy because I think there is a correlation to my DID/PTSD binge eating. I also want to learn the art of hypnoses then I guess cry about the SRA of when it doesn't seem like either is the cause. My brother was pcp/wet whatever the street term is. I am not sure what else ...Hopefully we can find at least a little bit of truce (squashing it). Hopefully the burger lady and fries folks can at least let me hang out with the clubs for a while it might keep me sleep. Might sound bad but I think it needs to keep a substance disorger stance for a while because of dangerous switching.

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Default Mar 19, 2020 at 05:23 AM
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My therapist suggested I try AA before I was an alcoholic for overeating. He said to substitute overeating with alcohol in my mind. I only went to open meetings. Then once I became an alcoholic it didnt matter anymore.

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