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Default Jan 29, 2020 at 04:40 PM
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I am female, 48 years old in 2 months an an ACOA. (My dad is the alcoholic. Still. I grew up with it and it still affevts me to some extent daily.) When I began dating a man (we will call him "S") 9 years my senior back in 2004, we ran intoa bit of trouble. (We are still friends today.) We were trying to be intimate but he said I didn't share enough of myself and he wasn't sure he wanted to date an ACOA. Fast forward at least 10 years and the opportuity arose again for sex - after not dating except off and on- and he broke down and kept saying"I can't. I dunno... I dunno... I can't....!" Now obviously this was HIS issue which that whoe timeI thought it was mine! I thought maybe I really did have an intimacy problem. But that event also spurred me on to be the OPPOSITE of whatever he thought was "an ACOA problem". With a new man I met in 2005, I purposefully shared my thoughts and feelings and that helped give us a emotionally intimate connection as far as sex goes. Is this an ACOA trait- not wanting to share emotionally or maybe it was just my bipolar acting up- all before I was diagnosed. Or maybe it was just S's issue? I was always trying to guess what their thoughts were and what their next move might be in order to step around them. This went for everybody but a lot with the men I dated.

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Anybody want to share about sharing?

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