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Apr 11, 2020 at 02:39 PM
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Nice work, Dad for showing me every step of the way guidebook on how to become an alcoholic! I remember being just a little girl & noticing how your personality changed with every single can of beer. Pathetic behavior to show to your 3 kids. Did u ever once think getting drunk daily might set a bad example for any kids, present? I could go on & on here, for days on end. My Dad is passed away now and I am 3 years+ sober, today. But I will never forget the damage. I still have severe issues today I suffer with, growing up with an alcoholic. Beer was most important, I get it. Pathetic....
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Apr 13, 2020 at 12:54 PM
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Thank you for sharing. Congratulations on your 3 year sobriety.
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Apr 14, 2020 at 12:56 AM
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Mnm9...thank u so much! Have a good day/night
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Apr 14, 2020 at 06:05 PM
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Thanks for sharing
 Congratulations on your 3 year sobriety. 
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Apr 20, 2020 at 05:58 PM
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Is it possible your dad had a mental illness or was dealing with trauma of his own? It's not an excuse and we don't all have awareness and coping tools under our belts.
I wonder if you were to learn and understand where he was coming from, you'd gain a bit of empathy towards him and heal yourself? |
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May 02, 2020 at 11:39 PM
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MsLady.....thanks for your comment. I'm not good at replying, cuz things are hard to put into words. Yes my father had mental illnesses. I did always have empathy, truly I did. But crap runs too deep & I really suffer with mental illness. Some could be genetic. His dad was put into a mental institution & diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia. But my dad thought that was not a big deal & even hid it from my mom, when she was first pregnant, with me (the oldest). Its a giant web of lies. Anyways I'm still sober & I can think clearly, now. About all of this. Thanks for reading.
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May 03, 2020 at 08:07 PM
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Congratulations on your three years!
 
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May 08, 2020 at 01:03 PM
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For many the whole purpose of drinking is to escape and not feel. It isn't planned to become addicted and alcohol dependent.
I am sorry you had to experience that challenge in your father and then ended up drinking yourself. That happens a lot sadly. Also, they have learned that the susceptiblity is inherited. |
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